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Pregnancy and Getting to Know Your Baby

MP900386367[1]During your pregnancy, it is important to relax and enjoy getting to know your baby. All babies are different so, why not get to know some things about your baby, before he/she arrives? You can start to learn some things about your baby when you take notice of the little things. Here are a few things to take note of:
1. Is the baby moving around a lot or quite passive and barely noticeable?
2. Are there specific times of activity such as night times or afternoons and when are the quiet times?
3. When did you first feel the baby move (this often feels like air bubbles or the flutter of butterfly wings)?
4. Are there certain foods you eat that change the activity level of the baby?
5. When you are very calm does this seem to calm the baby down?
6. Does the baby interact with you when you rub your stomach?
7. Sometimes when the baby is moving, different body parts become visible so when this happens, rub them. Does the baby respond?
8. Is the baby quiet when there is a lot of noise or, does that make the baby more active?
These are just a few things you can observe about your baby even before the arrival date. With this knowledge you will be more prepared for what comes next, which is, the baby. So, remember gather information, relax, and enjoy the quiet freedom of pregnancy, because soon, you will be confronted with a tiny individual.

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Creating a Family Requires A Plan

Smiling Family Posing in Field ca. 2002You decided to start a family and now you are creating a plan, so, keep a few things in mind when planning for  the future.  Remember  the garden analogy that discussed planning ahead,  it is time to start the plan.                                                                  Planning   Try sitting down with your partner, family, friends etc. and start  brainstorming about what the best possible life you would want for your  child. You should come up with an overwhelming list of things that you consider important.  The list will include things likes stability, security, health, money, family ties and friends.   The list will be long and daunting but remember it is not always possible to achieve everything from your list therefore,  it should only be thought as a, best case scenario. Having children is unpredictable, therefore how can we possibly try to have everything from the list in place before starting a family.  Trying to achieve the impossible is setting yourself up  to feel like you somehow failed.  That is just not true, you nee to relax and do the best you can with what you have. That is true planning.   Flexibility is how you weather the ups and downs in life, and being adaptable is how you create a strong family unit.  When something from our plan changes, it doesn’t have to have to be  permanent but consider it a bump in the road that we need to adjust too, while we alter our plan.  Plans need to change to accommodate what is happening in the present as this can ensure success in the future.  Remember our true goal is to have a magnificent family but that takes tending.

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A New Baby is Coming so Start a Parenting Plan

A young girl prepares to plant some springtime flowersChildren all go through specific well defined developmental stages and armed with specific strategies, guiding a child through these stages will most likely have positive results, so, you will need to make a parenting plan.  Why would you need a plan? Well if we compare parenting to gardening it will help you to see how those gardens (children) that are nurtured and well maintained tend to be strong, resilient. The more time you spend on your garden in the beginning the less time you need to spend tending to it as it matures.  Many things can cause problems in a garden, but, our early nurturing and constant tending will make it possible for the garden to flourish. Take a walk in you neighborhood and start observing the gardens. Look for the ones that are nurtured and compare them to the ones that were just planted with the expectation that they will grow with little or no work. Look for the differences and what you will see are gardens with, lots of different plants and flowers . Some gardens will be magnificent and some will be in need of work. Which type of gardener or parent would you like to be?

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Mother’s Day is Here So Enjoy!

MP900386168[1]The most important day of the year is upon us so it is time to celebrate all Moms, past, present and future.  No other role holds the same importance, so be sure to take the time to enjoy reveling in yourself.  Sometimes the importance of being a mother is overlooked because so many other things are considered more important.  Not on Mother’s Day.  Mother’s rule so sit back, enjoy letting others do something wonderful for you.  You only get one day a year that really belongs to you so don’t get bogged down with things being perfect or hosting a family function.  You can do that another day, Sunday is your day so let the men and children spoil you.  Even the littlest things can have the biggest impact so let the kids give you breakfast in bed and don’t go to the kitchen what ever you do.  The mess is not your job today.  Cheers!!!!!!!!

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